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Why First Impressions Matter

From the moment you set eyes on another person you are assessing who they are.  From top to bottom your eyes are like lasers taking in every movement, sound, and smell.   Interpreting in only a matter of seconds whether or not there may be a connection.   We are so quick to judge on instant sight.  We judge how we feel about another by past, and present experiences.  

How to present yourself

It's all about packaging.  How we package ourselves dictates the buyer!  May sound cold but look at it like this.  We present ourselves every single day.  Want a raise at work, you tend to dress up a bit more than usual.  You're more attentive to your physical appearance, therefore to be noticed and appreciated in a valuable way.  Same goes for dating.  You are looking to connect with someone you feel is on the same level as you and higher.  Just like a boss.  You want to look the part.  You want others to notice that you take pride in your appearance, therefore giving the impression that if you take care of yourself, you also take care of all areas of your life.  You want to be attentive, fit, active, responsible, admired, adored, reliable.  Now show this on the outside.  Respect for yourself shows through in your appearance and lets others know that you've got this!

Men - nice clean shoes and an attractive watch are a tell tale sign that a man values the finer things, therefore also seeks this in a partner.

Ladies - nice teeth, smile, fit physique along with being nicely dressed shows a man that you take care of yourself.  Your image matters because you value who you are and what you have to offer.

First date impressions

What both sexes watch when on a first date is how the other reacts to them!  Do they seem to be happy they're with me at this moment?  Are they bored, excited, overly anxious?  Giving off a good vibe (energy) is enough to let the other know that you're happy right where you are, with them!  Paying compliments to one another also lets the other know that you noticed something about them and you admired it.  

Flirting - flirting is simply just looking into their eyes softly, giving little touches, laughing at what they're saying, and simply just appreciating and admiring the other.  No need to over think this one!

When interested in the other, let them know.  Tell them you had a great time with them and would love to go out again.  If it's reciprocated, great, make the plans right there and then!  No need to wait a few days, week, month to arrange.  Todays a gift, don't take for granted tomorrow will ever come.  Strike while it's hot!

First date locations

The big moment of where to take your date, I mean after all, first impressions matter right?  Now depending on how you've met in the first place (if not through a Matchmaker), this will dictate whether it's going to be a coffee date or fine dining.

When is it okay to go on a coffee date? I personally do not like coffee dates because there's nothing romantic about coffee, nor the fact that it just screams 'cheap date' to me.  However, lots of singles meet online and agree to meet at coffee shops, this is to make sure that they're meeting who they 'think' they've met online.  People do scam others online so I can see where this would be a safe place to meet (if you have not used a Matchmaker, obviously).

When should a date be taken to dinner?  

Always!  A lady needs to be courted.  I'm only old fashioned when it comes to dating.  Men need to be gentlemen and ladies need to be ladies. 

Who pays for the date?  

Men!  Always!  What if I'm a lady and I ask a guy out? - If he's a gentleman he'll offer to pay!  If you're apart of the LGBT community, then it's the person asking out that pays.  

Date activities

Coffee, dinner, something active and fun!


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