Making Your Tessa Loren Club Experience Safe & Successful
Finding the kind of love that lasts a lifetime offline or online is not only possible, but likely. Tessa Loren believes in empowering you to make the best choices by providing guidance and support to help you discover your best qualities and those of your potential partners throughout your search.
As with anyone you meet—online or offline—your sound judgment and instincts are necessary to protect yourself. There is no substitution for acting with caution when communicating with someone you are just getting to know. Here are some essential ‘rules’ for safely navigating any relationship.
1. Always Use Your Best Judgment
Tessa Loren Club conducts criminal background checks at the time an account is registered. As with any personal interaction, keep in mind it is always possible for people to misrepresent themselves. Assessing a match’s truthfulness and honesty is ultimately your responsibility. Don’t ignore any facts that seem inconsistent or “off.” Trust your instincts and remember that you have control over the situation. If you’re talking to someone online or by phone and they say things that raise your suspicions, consider ending the conversation. If you’re out on a date and you feel uncomfortable, leave.
Also, be aware of these common red flags when you’re getting to know someone new. Watch out for someone who:
- Immediately requests to talk or chat on an outside email or messaging service.
- Claims that your introduction was “destiny” or “fate,” especially early in communication.
- Asks for money, goods or any similar type of assistance, especially if you have never met in person.
- Asks you to assist with personal transactions (depositing funds, shipping merchandise, etc).
- Wants the relationship to progress faster than you are comfortable going.
- Reports a sudden personal crisis and pressures you to provide financial assistance. Be especially wary if the person’s demands become increasingly aggressive.
- Asks inappropriate questions.
- Tells inconsistent or grandiose stories.
- Gives vague answers to specific questions.
- Urges you to compromise your principles.
- Constantly blames others for troubles in his or her life.
- Insists on getting overly close, very fast.
If a match does any of the above activities or makes you suspicious in any other way, please report this as a Match Concern by emailing email@example.com so that we can investigate the matter.
2. NEVER Share Financial Information or Certain Personal Information
- NEVER give out your credit card number or bank information.
- NEVER share your Social Security Number, mother’s maiden name, or other private information that can be used to access your financial information.
- NEVER send money to someone you meet online, especially by wire transfer.
Immediately stop communicating with anyone who pressures you for personal or financial information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.
3. Protect Your Account
Use caution and be aware of your surroundings so that others are not able to view or record your password or other personal information.
4. Do Your Own Research
While we DO conduct criminal background checks, it is important to remember that such screenings are inherently limited. Registries can be incomplete or inaccurate, and states and jurisdictions differ as to what type of crime must be registered on their registries and what types of crimes get removed. Many crimes often go unreported and perpetrators are not always convicted. Relying solely on screening can provide a false sense of security, so we strongly recommend that you follow the rest of the Safety Tips regardless of any screenings that we may perform. When it comes to your personal safety, you are in ultimate control.
Regardless of the connection you feel with any of your matches, we encourage you to do your own research before meeting in person. Above all else, use common sense. Pay attention to the details someone shares with you. If you find anything that doesn’t seem to add up, follow your intuition and stop communicating with that person.
5. Take Your Time
While offline and online communication can accelerate one’s sense of comfort and intimacy, we can’t stress enough how important it is for you to take your time getting to know your match.
It is vital to date and get to know each other in a deep, revealing and meaningful way by sharing a broad base of experiences together. The more experiences you share, the better your chances of avoiding hidden and sometimes unpleasant surprises. So allow time for a variety of experiences to occur, particularly your everyday routines. In cases of long-distance relationships, if possible, you should consider living in the same area for a significant time before committing to a more serious relationship. Move slowly and pay attention to the reality of your new relationship.
6. Make Your First Date Safe and Successful
Meeting in person is exciting. Have fun and explore the level of chemistry you share with your date, but don’t let high hopes cloud your ability to exercise reasonable caution.
- Choose the time and place of your date wisely. Meet in a public place at a decent hour during which lots of people will be around.
- Limit alcohol consumption or abstain entirely until you know the person better.
- Tell at least one friend or family member about your plans and when you will return. Arrange to check in with them after each of the first few dates.
- Carry a fully charged mobile phone with easily accessible emergency numbers.
- Leave unattended personal belongings such as purses, wallets, or jackets with pockets that may contain items that could reveal personal information about you, such as a driver’s license, credit cards and ATM receipts.
- Get intimate with someone too soon, even if it feels like everything is going great. You have not spent enough time with them to assess whether your safety is at risk.
7. Always be Respectful and Kind
Always be respectful and treat your matches as you would want them to treat you. Not every match may end up being The One for you so closing communication with matches and having matches close communication with you is a natural and healthy part of the process. Tessa Loren Club is about bringing two compatible people together who have a solid foundation from which a long-term relationship would have a high probability of success. You still need to carefully consider whether this particular person is one with whom you would like to further a relationship. If you feel the need to end communication, then be honest, direct and polite. The sooner you address this determination, the better for both of you.
If a match feels the need to close communication with you, please respect their wishes.
8. Report Concerns About a Match to Tessa Loren
The Tessa Loren Club works hard to close individuals who misrepresent who they are on our site, and we take member complaints seriously. If you have concerns about a particular match, please do not hesitate to contact us so that appropriate steps can be taken to keep the Tessa Loren Club safe. Email your concerns to: firstname.lastname@example.org
We hope these guidelines will help to make your Tessa Loren Club experience a success, and that you will find your soul mate as so many others before you have done.